Being v. Doing

Being v. Doing

Tara Brach defines being as “when we’re not on our way somewhere else”. Being is a sense of connection and acceptance with what is and who you are in this moment, while over-doing might involve acting to change or improve something because you perceive yourself or your situation as unsatisfactory. Over-doing might serve to hide the parts about yourself you don’t like or to control or change others. And when we’re hiding from ourselves or trying to control others, we’re disconnected from ourselves and others.

Reaching One’s Potential Through Awe

Reaching One’s Potential Through Awe

Awe is an amazing emotion. It has the power to help someone reach their authentic self through self-transcendence. This experience of wonder can empower someone to have more motivation, feel connected with the world, have better psychological well-being, and so much more. Understanding one’s place in this large world can be crucial, and awe is a way to find the meaning of one’s life.

Healing Through Mindfulness

Healing Through Mindfulness

Have you ever experienced something difficult? Every person who ever reads this post should be able to answer that question with a resounding “YES”. Whether it’s unfairness in your job, a friend who let you down, or the loss of a loved one, we’ve all experienced a lot of good and a lot of hard. Thankfully, there are a plethora of positive psychology strategies and resources that can help you work through these difficult emotions. Today we will focus on mindfulness. Before you click away with the thought, “Haha! Nice try, but I know about mindfulness, and it just isn’t for me”, be patient. We will discuss what exactly mindfulness is, what it isn’t, and how it can help you!

Living by your Values > Living by your Goals

Living by your Values > Living by your Goals

Values are the deepest desires of your heart—they provide a scaffolding for how you want to interact with others, yourself, and the world in general. Values are typically described as one-word “core virtues” or “ethics” that capture what a person wants their life to be about. They are meant to provide meaningful direction and joy along the way instead of putting emphasis solely on the outcome. In short, defining your values, learning to effectively live them, and actively refining them can be ways out of the incessant future-based goals mentality that can bog down our daily efforts.

Tips to Reduce Stress

Tips to Reduce Stress

Stress has been a constant companion in my own life, one that was often an unwelcome guest. I still remember my first efforts to eradicate it completely from my life, and much to no one’s surprise but my own, the attempt was largely unsuccessful. In trying to eat healthier, exercise, and drag my feet to get to bed at a decent hour, I was perplexed when my stress didn’t magically vanish. Instead, I felt like it added new stresses as I realized I wasn’t perfectly implementing my well thought out plan! What I didn’t realize at the time was that we will always have stress, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Let’s dive into positive and negative stress, how to change our outlook on it, and how to minimize bad stress in our lives.

A Recipe for Flow

A Recipe for Flow

Do you enjoy what you do? If not, is it rewarding in some other aspect? No one pays me to cook. I genuinely enjoy learning new recipes, even if they are a lot of hard work, because it means I have learned something new that I can use in the future. You don’t even have to feel joy or satisfaction to have flow. In fact, flow isn’t even meant to be fun. It is meant to foster growth.

You've Got a Friend

You've Got a Friend

Have you ever reflected on the number of people you’ve met throughout your life’s journey? Try to think of an exact number. Most likely, your head hurts from trying to do this–we come across a myriad of people every day by simply stepping outside our door. Now, how many people would you say you can really count on, those people who would drop everything to help you jumpstart your dead car battery or move into your new house? The number of people you thought of in response to my first question probably decreased significantly, but I’d venture to say that the actual significance of the people you thought of in response to my second question increased. Although we may have unique reasons for why we admire a certain friend, research suggests that compared to each other, we all can reap similar benefits of friendship.

Experiential Avoidance

Experiential Avoidance

Experiential avoidance is an unwillingness to remain in contact with distressing internal experiences and attempting to control or avoid these distressing internal experiences (Hayes-Skelton & Eustis, 2020). Essentially, it’s avoiding specific memories, thoughts, or feelings, because we don’t want to face the potential pain that comes with them. It’s something that we are all tempted to do at some point.

Body Appreciation

Body Appreciation

Our bodies are a precious gift that we only get one of. With this knowledge, why is it so difficult to be satisfied with our bodies? Body satisfaction through weight loss is the motivation for many people when they begin an exercise routine. If we head to the gym daily simply to fit into our favorite jeans or be ready for the beach this summer, will we have the same positive effects of body appreciation and happiness?

Finding Purpose in Your Career Decision

Finding Purpose in Your Career Decision

“Do what you love.” seems to be a piece of advice regularly given to college student decision makers—you know what I’m talking about. I’m sure your Uncle John was just telling you this at the annual family reunion. However, such advice is usually paired with the expectation that “what you love” is something prestigious, lucrative, and exciting. This counsel, rather than being helpful, might lead further questions to emerge in students’ minds: “What do I love?” “Is what I love going to make me a lot of money?” “Will what I enjoy be flexible enough to manage with my family?” The stress and indecisiveness remains. “What should I do?” continues to be the ever-prevalent question.